So I’m watching Family and having a feels attack because in the bathroom scene we all know so well Ziva asks Tony if he would be willing to leave his entire life behind for Jeanne. At the end of the episode he chooses his family, the team, over the girl. Because he knows that even if he were to go back to her he wouldn’t be able to be the man that she wanted him to be.
Jump to PPF, Tony leaves his life in DC behind for four months to search for Ziva in the middle of the desert and proceeds to tell her that he can change with her. He would have left everything behind, his whole life in DC, to stay with her if she’d let him. Because she is his family. And he is willing to do anything, be anything, if it means being with her.
Jeanne forced him to make a choice, and he didn’t choose her. Ziva wouldn’t let him make the choice, but he would have chosen her if she let him.